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The importance of dealing with your beliefs
By Hitesh Verma
Now, if you're like most
people who understand the powerful Law of Attraction that was all talked about recently on Television with respect to the movie - The Secret, know that it's
entirely up to us to create the future in the way we want.
In fact, the concept is so stupidly simple that most tend
to pass it saying, " Nah, it doesn't seem like it'll work ..." And that's where this article comes in.
You see, the Law of Attraction says, "Like attracts like". We're sort
of magnets attracting unto us what ever we put out - most importantly whatever we think about. Our Universe is an inclusion based Universe that says "yes" to every though that we put
out. It doesn't distinguish if we want it or not, it just fulfills whatever we're thinking about.
And, if we have a belief that's counter
to what we're thinking, we're offering a mixed signal to the Universe, saying, " Bring me that.
OK, forget about it, because I don't think that I'll get that".
human beings have been so conditioned by our surroundings to think & behave in a certain way. We have so many beliefs that we've formed all around us that get us more of what we believe. Most of us have grown up not believing there was enough & that there was always going to be a shortage. Which ones of the following
disempowering beliefs do you think you face?
- I'm not deserving enough. "You know, even John who is always at work doesn’t make that much money. How can I even
dream of making that much?"
- If I'm
rich, I will not fit in my social circle. My friends will see me as an outsider. They'll say, "Look at Jane! She's a big show
off with her new sports car."
- You have to be really smart
to be rich and well, mine is a different case. "You need at least a college degree to be successful and make money. I know about Bill Gates, but who else. You know that's one case"
I always have to work hard for making my ends meet
and that’s what I'll be doing all my life. "Isn't that what most of the world do? They work all day and then frugally
run their households and raise great children"
Do you get the idea? If on one hand, you're asking the Universe for a million dollars and your inner beliefs are saying otherwise,
then what do you think you'll get?
There are a few methods of dealing with your belief system.
In the next article, I'll get into more details of exactly how to approach the beliefs and how to change them.
Be patient. You didn't get all these beliefs in a day, so changing will take time. And here's the best part, when you do change them then the manifestations will begin to flow in easily. More of the things that you want will
come your way faster than ever.
The Magical Beliefs of Childhood
By James P. Krehbiel
In such cases, we perform to please, trying every means to get our parents to act like functional
adults. When our efforts fail in getting what we need from our parents, we turn our feeling inward & believe that somehow we're the one's who are defective, not our parents.
That way we can minimize the pain that results from dealing with them. Many people turn to self-blame as a way of coping & hold the image that our parents will someday change & become the loving people that we always wanted. As we transition to adulthood, many of us mantain this psyhic image, believing
that people ought to behave the way we want them to repond.
Many of us keep striving, pursuing, performing & fixing in order to fulfill the fantasy of what we want from others. By taking responsibility for our parent's failures, we let them off the hook & minimize the pain regarding how they treated us.
young children, we need the comfort of feeling safe. We tend to gravitate toward that which is familiar & comfortable even when it's dysfunctional. We maintain behavior patterns established by our parents. The safety of our support system makes us feel secure in the midst of an insecure world.
Eventually, the notion of trying to stay secure breaks down as we're faced with ambiguous & challenging problems. Allan Watts, author & philosopher, alludes to this paradox. the more we try to grab onto security, the more we actually feel out of control.
"Grabbing for security is like trying to hold water in our hands." Paradically, it's ony when we accept & embrace insecurity, that we actually become more grounded.
Believe In Yourself Believe In Your
By Donna Webster
Are you living the life of your dreams? Or are you like most women going thru the
day to day motions, day after day?
Surprisingly many women aren't living the life of their dreams. And it’s certainly
not because they have no dreams or goals. Many women have low self esteem & have never had anyone to build the confidence in them that they needed as a child.
Without someone on your side cheering you on & telling you to believe in yourself, it’s very easy to get discouraged & not pursue your dreams.
We all have dreams & goals & although we may be grown up now, those dreams & goals still hold a place in our hearts. You feel them now & then tugging at your heart strings trying to get your attention,
but you’re not sure what to do?
The good news is that it’s never too late to live the life you have always
dreamed of. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have your own personal cheer leader.
already have everything you need to become whatever you want in life. If you believe in yourself, anything is possible.
You have amazing gifts & talents & it’s you job to discover them & share them with the world.
With a little faith, hope & courage, you can live the life you have always dreamed of. Believe in yourself & the rest will
follow. Take that first step today, your destination is waiting for you.
The Belief Trap
By Jane Prince-Smith
What to do if you're certain things will never change & it all seems impossible...
Do it anyway.
The thing about change is that it always happens. We don’t always realize it, because we’re often too busy living inside our heads &
believing in various distortions of reality. But the basic principle of life is change.
Everything ages. People grow old. Cars rust. Living things die. Seeds lie dormant,
then sprout, bloom & die back. Weather changes constantly. Seasons change. Sick people get healthy; healthy people become ill. People are sad. Then sadness passes & gives way to joy.
So, to say that nothing will ever change isn't true. If people say this & they’re not psychotic, what’s going on?
going on is the process of belief. Belief is that which
feels true. Notice the accent is on the word “feels.” What we believe isn't
necessarily true, but it feels that way, so we accept it.
This is why people act
in ways which are contradictory to their best interest. Smart people do dumb things. Kind people do mean things. Good people do bad things. Some people fly planes into buildings. It is because of their beliefs.
So we can see that beliefs, although very possibly not true,
are very powerful. Some schools of therapy are built on the premise of changing one’s beliefs. When this can be done, it's an extraordinarily powerful technique.
But sometimes, our beliefs get the
better of us. The most insidious belief most people ever have is a belief
in their own unhappiness or misfortune. They reason, “Things will never get better. They never have; why would things change now?” “I'm unlucky.” “I’ve always been poor, so odds are I always will be.” “No
one would ever love me.”
We can argue with the beliefs, but
it may be a waste of time. They're very strong. So, the only way to combat them is to BEHAVE in a manner opposite to your
this mean, exactly?
For starters, it means
play-acting. Play-acting is the practice of behaviors that are the opposite of what you think.
i.e., a young girl believes she's ugly. As a result, she always walks with a shuffling kind of gait, slouched posture,
head down. (She’s trying to be invisible). The more she does this,
the more her belief in her ugliness grows.
One day, she starts to
walk differently. She holds her head up, makes eye contact & smiles slightly at people, picks up her feet & plants
them with purpose. She still believes she's ugly of course; she’s only doing this
on a dare.
After a week people are
starting to greet her warmly in the halls. After 2 weeks kids are chatting with her at the start of classes. Eventually, she's
plunged into a crisis:
...if she’s really that ugly,
how come people are so nice to her?
This is the first crack
in the belief. There are many to come. Sooner or later, the belief
will be replaced with REALITY.
We see beliefs come
crashing down all the time. The child who believes he can't ride without his training wheels;
the individual who believes she can't meet a particular challenge, the people who believe others of a certain race or creed are awful, until they work with
or live next door to some of those folks & have a good experience.
So believing that your life will always be awful because it always has been is just that: a belief.
You have no more certainty
that your life won’t change than you have that you'll even be alive tomorrow. In any case, it doesn’t matter what you believe;
only what you do.
If you practice living as though good fortune is around the corner,
sooner or later it will be. The odds are with you. If you practice carrying yourself as a person of beauty & importance,
you'll become so & most importantly, others will see you as such.
If you plan your life to include abundance, it will, eventually. Your choices will be different, your behaviors will be different &
when opportunity comes, your eyes will be open.
And the universe itself responds
differently. Whether or not you believe in such things, it's been shown repeatedly that
optimists are luckier than pessimists.
So, it’s a 3 step process:
the opposite of what you believe.
it come true.
3. Change your belief.
This method works. It
feels funny at first, but who cares? You felt lousy to begin with; what’s a little more weirdness? The point is, TRY
IT. You have nothing to lose, except maybe feeling a little silly; but trust me, no one will notice.
What is Your Belief, You Think
By Marc de Bruin
The world you experience around you is the world YOU experience around you. It’s not my
world & neither is it your mother’s or father’s world (although to a certain
degree it is, but more about that a little later).
You have your
very own way of seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting & smelling this earthly experience, which makes your viewpoint unique. Have you ever wondered why that's so?
Well, keep on reading.
There's this theory that
our senses are bombarded with about 2 million bits of information every second. If you'd be aware of all 2 million bits, you’d go bonkers completely. No doubt whatsoever.
That’s why our nervous system has this incredible ability to
“block out” huge amounts of info & to only let in about 134 bits (that's
0.000067%) per second to process.
What underpins this ability to
discard most of the sensory information & only be aware of a tiny bit of it are our internal filters, which distort, delete & generalize the sensory input to bite-sized pieces?
A couple of very important ones of these filters are the values, beliefs & memories you hold. For the purpose of this article I’d like to talk
a bit more about “beliefs” as a filtration tool.
We all hold beliefs & that’s a good thing, considering we don’t
want to go mad because of this massive assault of sensory input. But what are “beliefs”,
really? Well, they're the spectacles thru which you view the world & give it a certain “color.” Your beliefs make your world your own, unique world.
- emotions, etc.
Here are a few examples of beliefs, that make things more clear:
- I'm a brilliant / awful person
- My wife / husband loves me (not)
- The world is a terrible / gorgeous place to live in
- Nature is beautiful / horrible & scary
- The earth is round (yes, that's a belief,
not as much a fact. As little as 600 years ago, people believed the earth was flat! Who knows,
in another 600 years from now, people might believe the earth is just a disc with pictures moving
from left to right on it & life on earth is merely a “circular illusion”………)
- Black cars are more beautiful than red cars (that’s a
truth for me, but hey, even that's a belief!)
- When people look angry at me, I get scared / even angrier
- Driving a car is very dangerous
- The more I meditate, the closer I get to enlightenment
- I don't like being shouted at!
- I'm (not) good (enough)
- Working is what people are born to do
- Money only comes to me thru hard work Etc., etc.
Our beliefs are the mental maps we use to navigate the territory
we call “our life”. We develop(ed) our beliefs over time, starting from the
day we were born, out of our experiences in life. At birth, we don’t really believe
anything. But soon after that we start to develop our first beliefs about life.
It all starts with a vague representation of something we experience. We haven’t got a clue
where to fit that experience yet, but with time more & more clarity comes & “knowledge” arises.
That knowledge gets backed up by even more experience & solidifies.
Now the knowledge becomes a “knowing,” something that you consider “true” in your life’s experience.
You've started to believe in what once was merely a thought,
a possibility in the realm of options. If more validating & affirming experiences are stacked on each other, the belief develops even further, into a conviction.
From that point on, you've built a fortress around your belief
& it might seem that no-one is able to prove your belief wrong anymore.
Are you still with me??
I’ll give you a real-life
example out of my mother’s life. She got quite disappointed in people in her early life already. She experienced the
German suppression in WW II, had a not-so-nice stepmother & quite a tough upbringing.
All these (& more)
experiences developed the belief in her that “people aren't innately friendly, can't
be trusted straight away & need to be regarded with caution at all times, otherwise they’ll disappoint you”.
Now that's / was quite a destructive belief, but
nevertheless a true one in my mum’s life. When my parents divorced (another disappointment)
& most of the family on my father’s side - sort of - dumped her like a hot brick, that belief
got reinforced heavily.
It was true for her, wasn’t it? Later on, a few more not-so-nice encounters with the human
race turned her belief into a conviction & she died (too
young, in my opinion) convinced that “we” (yes, us humans)
are not-so-nice beings to begin with, apart from a few special gems.
mind you, my mother was quite spiritually evolved in many ways & taught me great wisdoms. This “parasite”
belief, however, had fully invaded her thoughts & made her life experience, well, not-so-nice,
to say the least.
I'm quite convinced I didn't take that specific belief on board,
luckily enough. My experiences with the human race are very positive!
above example goes to show that you can believe anything (how
idiotic the idea might seem to other people), as long as you hold an initial representation & find evidence
in your experiences that validate & confirm that representation.
Slowly this “idea” turns into a truth, something that's true for you in your world.
The belief my mother held (or at least my translation
of it) was
quite a negative one, but of course we hold very positive beliefs as well!
They make your life interesting & enjoyable & allow you to
soar high above mediocrity!
You’ll probably agree with me (I assume you got the picture) that the sum total of your beliefs
makes up your global representation of “the world”. Some beliefs you share with
others, other beliefs are purely yours.
A fact is, that many of the beliefs
you hold in your life right now are derivatives of beliefs your mother & father held
in their lives. Our parents leave an enormous mark on us, because they've been with us from the day one & are our prime
teachers for the first bunch of years of our lives.
And so there's a lot of truth in the biblical wisdom the “the sins of the father are visited
upon the son”, where “sins”, in my spiritual perspective, are the limiting beliefs
our parents held.
In my coaching practise I work a lot with beliefs.
I teach my clients how to find out what their beliefs are in the first place, how to grow
& reinforce the beliefs that are supporting them in their lives & how to undo &
break down the limiting, non-effective beliefs.
The simple truth (no, not a belief)
is that if we're able to create beliefs (& we are),
then we're also able to un-create & re-create beliefs. It's just a matter of finding
a new (desirable) representation in reality & searching for evidence that confirms & validates that new representation.
Moreover, there are simple but very powerful tools that I use to break down an old, limiting, not honoring belief, so the client & I are able to work at both ends of the issue. A tad of effort
& persistence on the client’s side to establish the new, honoring & effective belief means his/her world will change. It can't do anything else but that. Change your beliefs, change your world & enjoy it more. Simple & very powerful!
Marc de Bruin
LandMarc Coaching & Health Solutions
believe to be true is that which is coherent to their already established cache of truisms.
This cache is developed over time and is significantly shaped by the significant people in the environment. Its development
is monitored by the rigor with which each new proposition is analyzed in relationship to what already exists. But the child
who has a poorly developed set of logical skills; whose information cache is personalized and moralized; and has little energy
to deal with noncoherent propositions, will develop a reality which very likely depreciates his/her self concept which is
likely to result in antisocial behaviors which set in motion a reality [pragmatics] which reinforces this perspective.
believe to be true is that which is coherent to their already established cache of truisms.
This cache is developed over time and is significantly shaped by the significant people in the environment. Its development
is monitored by the rigor with which each new proposition is analyzed in relationship to what already exists. For a scientist,
the coherent belief system is developed through a continual examination of nature.
are incongruent to such natural aspects are suspect. When incoherence is met with physical evidence of truth [the new theory proves capable of answering questions and predicting outcomes
not able to be done earlier], the belief system is found to be potentially
flawed and a decision to change becomes possible. In fact, it can be theorized that all change requires sufficient dichotomy
with the known in order for new development to occur.
Douglas Hofstadter ,
a physicist and mathematician has developed a computer program which has a set of overall tendencies which might characterize
the human mind as it takes random elements and formulates a degree of perceived order.
- There is a general tendency
for the initially activated concepts to be conceptually shallow, and for concepts that get activated later to be increasingly
deep. There is also a tendency to move from no themes to themes [i.e., clusters of highly
activated closely related, high-conceptual-depth concepts].
- There is a general tendency
to move from a state of no structure, to a state with much structure, and from a state having many local, unrelated objects,
to a state characterized by few global, coherent structure.
- As far as processing is
concerned, it generally exhibits, over time, a gradual transition from parallel style toward a serial style, from bottom-up
mode to top-down mode, and from an initially nondeterministic style toward a deterministic style.
In such a manner, do human
beings create beliefs from random facets of situations. If you feel uneasy about a proposition
in which greater intelligence can result from making random decisions rather than using systematic ones, Hosfstadter suggests
this is an illusion caused by a confusion of levels.
As sensory information is
gathered there is a drive towards global coherence and deep concepts. As the person acquires more and more information, s/he
starts creating a coherent viewpoint and focusing in on organizing themes converting from the initial largely bottom-up, open-minded
mode to a largely top-down, close minded one. This movement toward coherent pathways results in macro decisions being made
non-randomly. "Thus, randomness is used in the service of, and not in opposition to, intelligent nonrandom choice."
suggests that this is the equivalent of the fluidity of water.
...It is interesting to note
that non-metaphorical fluidity - that is, the physical fluidity of liquids like water - is inextricably tied to random microscopic
actions. A liquid could not flow in the soft, gentle fluid way it does, were it not composed of tiny components whose micro-actions
are completely random to one another.
This does not, of course imply
that the top-level action of the fluid as a whole takes on any appearance of randomness; quite to the contrary! The flow of
liquid is one of the most nonrandom phenomena of nature that we are familiar with. This does not mean that it is by any means
simple; it is simply familiar and natural-seeming. Fluidity is an emergent quality, and to simulate it accurately requires
and underlaying randomness.
It is critical, it seems,
that people be allowed the potential to follow risky pathways in order to have the flexibility to follow insightful pathways, and in order to do so they must have random, not directed influences. In this complex world we are unlikely to
know in advance what concepts may turn out to be relevant in a given situation and examination of a limited number, but randomly
selected variables are most likely to enable us to consider nonconforming solutions.
We want to avoid dogmatically open-minded search strategies which entertain all possibilities equally, while at the same time, avoiding dogmatically close-minded strategies, which in an irrational way rules out certain possibilities a priori. It might be argued that people with problems in living have a tendency to be
too dogmatic in regard to close-minded strategies and develop automatic thoughts which quickly move toward limited [and often ineffective] ends.
Many people, even in civilized
societies operate with beliefs that are unexplainable. Many others have explained their
beliefs in nonlogical and inconsistent patterns which fluctuate between the conscious [able to be understood in symbolic terms] and the unconscious [without common symbols]. Where the understanding breaks down, the faith comes in.
What is difficult to define
is why people believe what they believe. We are aware that people absorb knowledge [used here to define understanding through common language symbols] and lore [used here to define
understanding through subconscious characteristics such as style, tone, affect, demeanor, etc.] through their senses, but
we are not able to delineate why they know what they know.
This is of course, because
the very existence of what we are calling lore is predicated upon our inability to define symbolically these experiences,
thus we know more than we can say. Even belief systems which appear to be formed based on
logical, rational data often rely on unsayable mental constructs.
Gilbert , in writing
about Spinozian theories, suggests that all we mean when we say that a person has a belief
is that there exists in a person*s mind a coherent mental representation which contributes to that person*s behavioral propensities.
He further suggests that these beliefs are what bind us to the reality outside.
What we believe creates our reality and we believe that which is coherent with our
prior beliefs. In this process, each person creates his or her own comprehensive perspective
of the world based on an attempt to make all experiences congruent to former experience.
Gilbert further cites Spinoza's
speculation and later research evidence, that all propositions [mental representations
using symbolic language] are considered by the person to be true unless the person has the energy and desire to do the analytic work to determine the proposition's coherence. This analytic work must implement the set of rules [syntax] that the system has available and the truths [semantics] that that system already accommodates.
This suggests that a system
[child] needs energy, logic [syntax] and information [semantics]
to create belief systems which provides an independent view of the reality of the world.
Thus the capacity of an individual to arrive at a more or less objective sense of the reality around us is contingent upon
an energetic desire to learn the "truth", a finely honed set of logical skills and a willingness to expose each "truth" to stringent tests of empirical evidence, and finally a large and growing set of beliefs
which have stood the test of time; been shielded from personal feelings which cannot be supported through evidence, and exposure to critical thinking.
But the child who has a poorly developed set of logical skills; whose information cache is personalized and moralized; and has little energy
to deal with noncoherent propositions, will develop a reality which very likely depreciates his/her self concept which is
likely to result in antisocial behaviors which set in motion a reality [pragmatics]
which reinforces this perspective.
The important impact of words,
both internally [thinking] and externally [communicating] upon people is of concern if we are to develop a society [school culture]
which is capable of creating a more or less objective reality. Of particular importance to the development of competent children are metaphorical words which convey large generalizations of concept. [i.e., bad, lazy,
Such words, when used pejoratively,
without consistent data to support them, become euphanisms for who we are. While the logical [conscious]
part of our brain may be significantly less powerful than the instinctive part, it is nonetheless important. We must be able
to help people process the use of symbols consciously and correctly, if we hope to find a way to have significant impact on
how people perform [communication and behavior] in day to day life.
The hope is, from the perspective of the individual child, to strengthen analytic work through motivating [energizing] children to become conscious [be attentive and aware] of their present schemata [coherent belief
systems ] and to teach them the skills to develop logical analytical processes; in order to defuse
metaphorical generalizations through an investigative process; and to enable people to make conscious those aspects of their
thought which prove to be toxic.
Once armed with such cognitive
skills, a child can then discover whether their beliefs about self, others and prospects "fit". They can,
with help. find and adapt the fittest constructs which help them to reach their goals. They can "recreate" themselves through their beliefs.
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Master your beliefs, Master Your Emotions
By Steve Davis
Joe makes a comment and you suddenly feel a rush of energy. Your face flushes and your knuckles
whiten as you begin squeezing the edge of the table for dear life. Some part of you knows that this feeling isn't proportionate to Joe’s comment or intention, but something was triggered in you nonetheless and you’re ready to bite his head off.
be effective as a friend, spouse, significant other, coworker, manager, leader, or whatever role you’re playing at the
moment, learning to manage your feelings is a critical step toward living a happy, successful and fulfilled life. And let me just say this up front, managing your feelings doesn't mean that you stuff them down and repress them. It means that you become aware of what's going on inside of you, own your feelings as your own, heed the message that they have for you and act responsibly.
What are emotions and what is emotional mastery? Emotions are often described as energy in motion. They become problems only when we judge them as wrong, bad, or inappropriate. When we let our emotions run us, we miss the message that they carry. When we stuff them down for fear of what they might cause us to do, they simply lie in wait to emerge with a vengeance later on. Emotional mastery is the
ability to process our emotions so that we receive their message and use their energy for appropriate action.
emotions are very much a reflection of our beliefs about life events. For example, if you believe that you are your work and you suddenly lose your job, you're likely to feel an incredible
amount of fear, as you perceive your very survival to be at stake. If you repress this fear, possibly because you view it as a weakness, you’ll probably experience anger or rage and at some point, you'll likely lash out at whoever’s available.
If on the other hand, you're a person who views your job simply as one aspect of
your life and you know that your inherent value lies in your unique skills and qualities, then your feelings and response to losing your job will probably be a whole lot different. You may just view this loss as an opportunity to
explore a whole new path for yourself.
The bottom line here is this: how you feel
in any situation corresponds exactly with what you believe about yourself and the situation.
Master your beliefs and you’ll master your emotions.
Knowing that you can change how you feel simply by changing how you think about each experience is a powerful concept. So if you feel upset about something, ask yourself, “How can I reinterpret this event in a such a way that
I can feel good or at least OK about it?”
If you have a bill you can’t pay, instead of getting mad or sad about it, decide that this is an opportunity to redesign your financial life. Ask for help, develop a plan and use your energy to get moving on it.
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How you think about your emotions adds even another layer. We often give ourselves a double whammy when we get
upset about feeling upset. Here are some positive ways to interpret the purpose of our basic emotions set down by Peter McWilliams in his book, "Do It."
Fear is the energy to do your best in a new situation.
Unworthiness keeps us on track - just as we can have anything we want, we can't have everything we want. So too, we're worthy of anything we want, but we may not be worthy of everything we want.
So how can you use this information in your life? I suggest that you examine any beliefs you hold around emotions and the situations that trigger them. Begin to cultivate present moment awareness as your emotions arise. Just notice them and look at them, not as good or bad, but simply with curiosity and with the question, what's this energy for and how do I choose to use it?
Begin the practice of observing emotions when they arise and identify any judgments you might have about them. Focus instead on listening to the message they hold for you. Then, if you should be so bold, act on this message by expressing the emotion in a positive fashion.
So, we all have beliefs about work, life and ourselves that
we brought with us from our earlier years. Through our experiences as well as what people told us, we now look at and embrace
life in a certain manner.
Maybe your parents told you you weren't smart enough. Maybe growing up in a large family you didn't
feel your opinion mattered.
These beliefs are limiting in that they're still holding you back from moving forward in your life. On the flip side, maybe your parents made you feel
smart and that you could accomplish anything you set your mind to. Or you saw a strong work ethic that's now instilled in you today.
These beliefs are enabling in that they enable you to be your
best. The problem arises when you allow past limiting beliefs to guide your present and future decisions.
These negative beliefs stay with you and you remain stuck in the past. You do however have the choice to create new supportive beliefs, leaving the past where it belongs, in the past.
Acknowledge that what you were taught you had no control over, but you DO have control over your mind and belief system today.
Action Steps For The Week:
1. List past beliefs
What did you grow up believing about work, relationships and yourself?
Take some paper out and jot down everything you believe about
the above areas of your life. Next to these beliefs write down if they're enabling you or
Highlight the beliefs that are still limiting you from completely moving forward in your life.
i.e., if the thought "I'm unattractive" continues to pop up in your mind, you're unlikely to walk around confident. This lack of confidence will not allow you to be your best.
2. Create new beliefs
Next to the limiting beliefs write down a more positive belief you'd like to create for yourself.
i.e., one of your limiting beliefs is that you're unattractive and unappealing to the opposite sex. Next to that you can write "I'm attractive
inside and out, attracting many positive people into my life"
3. Practice makes perfect
times a day repeat the positive enabling beliefs you created for yourself.
Your thoughts truly become your reality.
Focus on the new beliefs until you begin
to believe them yourself.
The art of stating them to yourself creates a new
belief while replacing the old limiting ones.
If you focus on the negatives, you'll continue to attract that to yourself.
Bury the old and create some new more uplifting
Different areas of brain respond to belief,
UCLA brain imaging study suggests a neurology of belief
12/11/2007 3:53:27 PM
The human mind is a prolific
generator of beliefs about the world. The capacity of our minds to believe
or disbelieve linguistic propositions is a powerful force for controlling both behavior and emotion, but the basis of this process in the brain is not yet understood.
In the January issue
of Annals of Neurology, currently online, Sam Harris, a UCLA graduate student in the lab of Mark Cohen, a professor of psychiatry at
the UCLA Center for Cognitive Neuroscience and a study co-author, and Sameer Sheth of Massachusetts General Hospital, report
that functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) reveals clear differences in the areas of the brain involved in belief, disbelief and uncertainty.
Their results suggest that
the differences among these cognitive states may one day be distinguished reliably, in real time, by techniques of neuroimaging.
This finding has implications for the detection of deception, for the control of the placebo effect during drug design and
for the study of any higher cognitive phenomenon in which the differences among belief,
disbelief and uncertainty might be relevant.
Fourteen adult volunteers
were scanned in an MRI device at UCLA's Brain Imaging Center. While inside the scanner, subjects were presented with written
statements covering a broad range of topics, including:
- factual knowledge
- word definitions
- biographical facts about themselves.
Subjects were asked to rate
these statements as true, false or undecidable. The authors then compared the brain images recorded when their subjects
believed, disbelieved or could not judge the truth-value of these written propositions.
The scientists predicted
that the difference between belief and disbelief would be largely mediated by activity in
the frontal lobes — the part of the brain most enlarged and differentiated in humans. Indeed, when belief and disbelief were compared, the investigators saw differences principally in a region known as the ventromedial
prefrontal cortex (VMPFC), near the front of the brain, along its midline.
"The involvement of the
VMPFC in belief processing suggests an anatomical link between the purely cognitive aspects of belief
and human emotion and reward," the authors said. "The fact that ethical belief showed a
similar pattern of activation to mathematical belief suggests that the physiological difference
between belief and disbelief may be independent of content or emotional associations."
The areas especially engaged
in disbelief included the limbic system's cingulate areas and the anterior insula, a brain region known to report visceral
sensations such as pain and disgust and to be involved largely in negative appraisals of sensations like taste and smell.
"Our results appear to make
sense of the emotional tone of disbelief, placing it on a continuum with other modes of stimulus appraisal and rejection,"
the authors said. "False propositions might actually disgust us."
When the subjects experienced
uncertainty, yet another pattern emerged. A different portion of the cingulate cortex, located closer to the front of the
brain, showed a much stronger signal. This so-called "anterior cingulate" cortex frequently shows up in studies of conflict
monitoring, error detection and cognitive interference. When compared to both belief and
disbelief, the state of uncertainty also showed a decreased signal in the caudate, a region of the basal ganglia, which plays
a role in motor action.
Noting that uncertainty
differs from both belief and disbelief by not allowing us to settle upon "a specific, actionable
interpretation of the world," the authors suggest that the basal ganglia may play a role in mediating the cognitive and behavioral
differences between decision and indecision.
Taken together, these data
offer insight into the way in which our brains work to form beliefs about the world.
"What I find most interesting
about our results is the suggestion that our view of the world must pass through a bottleneck in regions of the brain generally
understood to govern emotion, reward and primal feelings like pain and disgust," Harris said.
"While evaluating mathematical,
ethical or factual statements requires very different kinds of processing, accepting or rejecting these statements seems to
rely upon a more primitive process that may be content-neutral. I think that it has long been assumed that believing that two plus two equals four and believing that George Bush is
President of the United States have almost nothing in common as cognitive operations. But what they clearly have in common
is that both representations of the world satisfy some process of truth-testing that we continually perform. I think this
is yet another result, in a long line of results, that calls the popular opposition between reason and emotion into question."
Harris is the author of
two New York Times best-sellers, "The End of Faith" and "Letter to a Christian Nation," which have been published in more
than 10 languages.
Cohen is a pioneer in the
technologies and applications of MRI. He, along with colleagues at Harvard, performed the first experiments using fMRI to
localize brain activity in humans.
Research in Cohen's
lab is funded by grants from the National Institutes of Health.
The Center for Cognitive
Neuroscience is part of the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA, an interdisciplinary
research and education institute devoted to the understanding of complex human behavior, including the genetic, biological,
behavioral and sociocultural underpinnings of normal behavior, and the causes and consequences of neuropsychiatric disorders.
In addition to conducting fundamental research, the institute faculty seeks to develop effective treatments for neurological
and psychiatric disorders, improve access to mental health services, and shape national health policy regarding neuropsychiatric
Belief and Healing
System can be one of our most powerful assets or our worst enemy. Our belief system essentially makes up who we are. Our belief system is
made up of a set of core values, which we tend to base everything we do, say, or believe in.
To start our journey
in life, we create a set of beliefs, which define us. As part of our healing process, we take our beliefs
as our ultimate truth and often do not sway from them. Sometimes, it is necessary to reinvent our belief system
and redefine our values so that we can see clearer and be able to achieve the fulfilling life that we desire.
On this page,
you can discover how to create a healthy belief system, how believing in yourself can help you heal and the power of mind
medicine. Consider taking our Wellness IQ Test,
which is a complete look at your total belief system. Learn how no expectations can
lead to endless possibilities and understanding the spirit allows us the power over all.
system that serves us well, is a belief in unlimited abundance, a deserving and humble
nature and room to understand that, which serves the common good. Consider these suggestions for creating a healthy belief system that serves you:
1. Start by allowing abundance
into your life: There are no limits except for those we impose on ourselves. Believing you cannot have what you want in your life, is a self-destructive
and disparaging idea that you create yourself.
2. Use the words "unlimited
possibilities": This is your mantra. I have, I desire, I believe in...."unlimited
possibilities". Abundance is a long lasting, enduring enjoyment of life. It is being in love with living.
3. Understand that you are
deserving: No, it is not your "karma", not your "lot in life", not "what you deserve"... we are ALL deserving.
You deserve all that the Universe is able to give, and these are "endless possibilities".
4. Improve your self esteem:
We can all seek to improve ourselves. It is time you became committed to truly loving and appreciating yourself
and who you are. Take a minute to look at your individualism. Honor who you are. Honor what it took to get you there. Chest
up and get moving!
5. Improve feelings of self-hate
arising out of guilt: Is it possible that your guilty feelings are excessive, your self-hate is an overreaction?
Yes. Look back at the cause of this belief. Who are you really punishing here? Re-evaluate your situation.
Stop the self punishment and forgive yourself....and others. It serves only to wear you down.
6. Look at your negative
beliefs: What is standing in your way? Is it issues around love,
Take a look at these issues on an individual basis. Remove the question from the situation. Does it really have value? What
is the true connection between you and this belief?
7. Are you general happy?:
If so, make a list of 10 things that bring you happiness! If you believe you are not, make
a list of 5 thinks that do not. Evaluate these 5 items of unhappiness. Each has a solution that you are going to solve!
8. Perhaps there is a current
belief that no longer serves you: have
the courage and the strength to seek the truth. Allow yourself to let go of an old, hurtful or useless idea or concept that
does you no good. Allow yourself. Let it go.
9. Search for meaning by
reading and reflection: The search itself will help restore a degree of sense and purpose
10. Some important values:
about your belief system include giving, sharing, accepting compliments and recognizing
With the ability to
believe, you can accomplish nearly anything! The more you believe in yourself,
the more you will definitely accomplish. When we face situations that are near physical or mental impossibilities, then it
is our belief system, or belief in ourselves, that determines IF it is possible.
Our body and minds are stronger
and more complexed than most people think. We are capable of much more. People place too many limits on what
they can do. Learning to believe in yourself and your abilities is a hard job that never ends.
Although, it does get easier
with time. You need to start pushing yourself. Attempting things that are just outside your ability.
I know, your saying to yourself,
"I push myself," or "I do my best," and yes, that is very important, but you have to believe you can go past your limits.
By putting in the time and effort you WILL succeed. As you succeed, your confidence will grow. The trick to this is,
every time you reach what you believe is your limit, remind yourself that you can do more. Always assume that you can
do more than you already have accomplished. One of the best things about expanding your limits, is that things that used to
be impossible, can now be apart of your everyday life!
By building the belief in your ability, you can accomplish anything
*Our outlook on life
tells us exactly where we are going!
Belief System is one of the major factors that can get us through situations or can cause our
life to crumble around us! I do believe that there is a lot of innate goodness and balancing our minds do subconsciously to
get us through hard times. The other portion of this is how we "program" ourselves to deal with any given situation.
* Our self-confidence and self-love
are often the key to opening and strengthening this portion of our thoughts which in turn emanates from ourselves!
* Energy follows thought.
Program thought to be positive and your energy will reflect it!
* Really appreciating
what we DO have as opposed to what we would like to have, sometimes makes a signifcant difference. This is always an important
element in healing that is often neglected.
imparts the healing power on the entire body. This "trickle-down effect" can be seen repeatedly in many forms of Eastern
medicine. The psychological root-cause of each person's belief system, which becomes the texture of how we live our
lives, can be expressed in the subtle energies of the body as well as in the expression of disease.
No matter what form of therapy
we use, be it herbs, acupuncture, crystals, color… we are only capable in balancing our lives as we are by the
beliefs we hold in our heart. Formulate a positive belief system and we lay the basic groundwork for a stronger foundation
in which to build better health.
system is one of our most powerful assets. With the ability to believe, we can accomplish nearly anything! The
more one believes in them selves, the more one will definitely make accomplishments. When we face situations that are near
physical or mental impossibilities, then it is our belief system, or belief in ourselves, that determines IF it is possible.
Instilling this message to a person can create the groundwork for change. The following is a look at both the Eastern and
Western approach to mind body practice.
Oriental Medicine Model
Within the traditions of Oriental
Medicine, the connection between the mind, the body and its spiritual components have been the basis of this holistic health
system for centuries. Shamanism and incantations were the primary beginnings of this system, followed by well-known philosophers
and their ideologies.
Traditional Chinese Medicine Psychology bases
the combination of Jing-Essence, Qi and Shen as the Fundamental Theory. The fundamental theories include:
1. The Integration of Body and Mind: The combination
of Jing-Essence,Qi and Shen.
2. The Heart: Traditional Chinese Medicine has long looked
at the heart as the dominant organ for mental activity. It is believed that all information is preserved and processed through
3. Five Zang Organs and mental activities: The visceral
root of our emotions. Liver, Heart, Spleen, Lungs and Kidneys.
4. Individuality and Temperament: Every life begins with
inherent strengths and weaknesses.
5. The Respect of the Soul: Deeper levels of the emotions
affect our spiritual planes.
"Ru Jia" – Confucianism's "Doctrine
of the Means" was how one would create a healthy balanced state between the mind, the body and spirit. By nurturing the mind,
the health of the organs would follow. The guidelines for achieving this balance would be to live with good manners, loyalty,
honoring one's parents, the proper conduct, benevolence and love.
Taoist guidelines for a healthy mind and body
would be to "Live with content". Be free in yourself and be close to nature. Lao Tzu, is regarded as the creator of the foundation
of the Taoist philosophy. In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu stated that "people should return to the original condition of nature…complete
Buddhism teaches the benefits of deep calming
and to be consciously aware. At the very heart of Buddhism are the Four Noble Truths, taught by the Buddha to his earliest
disciples, in his first sermon.
The first Truth is that life is dukkha -- a word translated as suffering, dislocation.
In other words, because something has gone wrong in the world, life is not as it should be, and there is pain. In order to
relieve suffering, we must discover its cause.
The second Truth offers the explanation:
The cause of dukkha is tanha, or desire -- specifically, desire for personal gratification. A person ruled by tanha is one
who will ignore the welfare of every other being to satisfy his own desire. Since in reality all is one, shutting oneself
off from that oneness through selfishness causespain.
The third Truth identifies what must be done:
If suffering is caused by selfish craving, overcoming that craving will eliminate the pain. The fourth Truth offers the solution:
The Buddha's Eightfold Path -- follow its instructions,
and one will find release.
The Western Psychiatric Model
1. The Bio-psychosocial Model
The bio syndromes, which include the syndrome,
related to the anatomical pathology or disordered pathophysiology. This is where medicine blends with psychology.
The psycho syndromes, which include the mental and emotional
processes of the mind. This is the personality behind the medical illness.
The social syndrome, which intimately involves the person's
family,environment, financial and educational backgrounds. This expresses how no psychiatric patient exists in a vacuum.
2. The Perspective Model
Every psychiatric patient's disorder is viewed as being influenced
by disease, behavior, personality and life story.
remains one of the most nfluential figures of the 20th century.
Freud's basic insight that our minds preserve memories and emotions which are not always consciously available to us has transformed
the way humanity views itself ever since. The tendency of people to trace their problems to childhood traumas or other repressed
emotions begins with Freud.
One of Freud's more important discoveries
is that emotions buried in the unconscious surface in disguised form during dreaming, and that the remembered fragments of
dreams can help uncover the buried emotions. Whether the method is exactly as Freud describes it, many people have consequent
insights into themselves from , and many people consider dreams emotionally significant, contrasting
our ancestors who often saw them either as divine suggestion or as simply a side-effect of indigestion.
is one of the most respected and recognized psychologists of all
time. Many people know Jung as one of Sigmund Freud's followers and co-workers. Jung's emphasis in the field in psychology
had to do with dreams. Jung developed many theories about dreams, a lot of them disagreeing with Freud. Jung was a great
psychologist and psychiatrist that changed the ways of psychology today.
Jung thought that were a tool to help us grow, not just to release extreme sexual
desires. Jung felt that were more than about sex, they were about life. Jung said that
sexual drive doesn't even motivate us as much as the fear of death. Jung was an inspiration to all in the psychology field.
His theories are instrumental in psychology and psychiatry fields today.
Dr.Wilhelm Reich who discovered the "orgone
energy" theory, emphasized that all diseases could ultimately be best understood as imbalances in the orgone energy system.
Reich became convinced that a subtle biophysical energy permeates all living things and that the orgone is mass-free; permeates
all of space in different concentrations; is responsible for all forms of life; is taken into the body through breathing;
is present in all cells, is especially drawn to water and forms units, both living and nonliving.
John Upledger DO. has been recognized as
an innovator and leading proponent in the investigation of new therapies. His development of CranioSacral Therapy has earned
him an international reputation. As an osteopathic physician, Dr. Upledger did extensive scientific studies from 1975 to 1983
at Michigan State University, where he served as a clinical researcher and Professor of Biomechanics. His therapy is
a subtle, hands-on method of evaluating and enhancing the functioning of a physiological craniosacral system. This system
is comprised of the "inner physician" as well as, membranes and cerebrospinal fluid that surround and protect the brain
and spinal cord. By complementing the body's natural healing processes, CranioSacral Therapy is increasingly used as
a preventive health measure for its ability to bolster resistance to disease, and is effective for a wide range of medical
problems associated with pain and dysfunction.
It is through the courageous and unique approaches of such Western
minds as these, that allows for the mind body model to be stretched and supplemented into new and innovative ways. These
men have made great strides in allowing us to look at connections between the psyche and the physical flesh the mind inhabits.
They bring closer the bridge between Eastern theories and Western advances in order to complete the circle of one ideal model.
The Realm of the Possible
In my approach to "Mind Medicine", I use the power of
my energy therapies I have studied with a look at a particular person's belief in themselves and their surrounding situation(s).
As individual as the cells that make up our systems, the process of healing each individual is as unique as this. It is inevitable
as human nature dictates, to want to categorize and organize things. This is an innate function of the brain system itself.
If you have this... then you do this... and so on.
As we learn... a system of healing, be it
allopathic medicine or complementary and alternative modalities such as massage therapy, ayurvedics, traditional Chinese medicine,
color therapy and so on –there tends to be a set of tried and true rules to observe, follow or be guided by.
As we practice... it is never as cut and
dried! We would all like to see patients come in with classic textbook symptoms. This would make it so easy for us to treat.
Unfortunately, those cases tend to be more the exception than the rule. That is what makes healing not only an art, but also
a lifetime of discoveries.
I feel, nothing in healing, is etched in stone.
What method of treatment may help one individual may not help the next. This is why it is important to be open to and aware
of as many possibilities in the healing arena as possible. I also do not believe that if someone has said or has proven that
a form of healing MAY NOT work in general, that this still is not grounds for abandoning the treatment. What may not work
for one may absolutely be appropriate in healing another.
In Western medicine, for example, we tend
to only work with and accept the most recent medications; the most recent findings and the most current approaches...disregard
In Chinese medicine, no theory or form of
healing is ever thrown out but placed in the "tool belt of knowledge" and maybe able to be called upon when one path is not
In any clinical setting where there is an
interview, there is an . Through these energies, we can observe the ability to relate
to one another via that form a valuable source of knowledge about the patient's personality,
and his or her transference.
In the clinical setting, the are always present. Trying to balance these energies that abound
in a clinical interview are both challenging to recognize, as they are to cope with. The process of being aware, as well as
conscious, plays a major role in the recognition as to where an imbalance manifests.
Your "tool belt of knowledge" can also be an imperative
part in the process. These delicate energy levels, when balanced can maintain a level of good health and strong immunity within
the body. When thrown into disarray, this may give a clue as to where to start.
Belief Becomes Substance
Our body and minds are stronger and more
complexed than most people think. We are capable of much more. People place too many limits on what they can do. Learning
to believe in ourselves and our abilities is a hard job that never ends. I often stress the point that they should often
challenge themselves. Attempting things that are just outside their ability. One of the best things about expanding our limits
is that things that used to be impossible can now be apart of our everyday life! By building the belief in our ability, we
can accomplish anything in life. I want people to understand these guidelines:
* . Program thought to be positive and our energy will reflect it!
* is one of the major factors that can get us through situations
or can cause our life to crumble around us! I do believe that there is a lot of innate goodness and balancing that our minds
do subconsciously in order to get us through hard times. The other portion of this is how we "program" ourselves to deal with
any given situation.
* . We can choose to be beaten or choose to win.
* is often the key to opening and strengthening this portion of
our thoughts, which in turn emanates from us!
* what we DO have as opposed to what we would like to have sometimes
makes a significant difference. This is always an important element in healing that is often neglected.
With this foundation built, practically any healing modality
will have an even better chance of taking root in the positive, strengthening all that it offers in return.
There are many factors in the healing process and you are only
part of the plan, your patient is the other piece of the puzzle. I had a wonderful teacher who once said to me:
"A doctor's job is not to heal a patient, it
is to show the patient who they really are!"
This profound statement has stayed with me. It has given me
the insight to offer options of healing to a patient. Steering them in the right direction in order to heal is to allow them
to help them heal themselves. I am always seeking other options of healing.
This Wellness I.Q. Test has been provided by Dr. Robert Ivker,president
of the American Holistic Medical Association. I thank him.
The purpose of this test is to provide you with a number
of methods to enhance your health, and to help you experience being more fully alive. You can complete the test-CLICK HERE .
We expect things in life. We expect things to be as they were
in our childhood, the way we were brought up. We expect things to be the way we want them to be, the way we feel things should
be. We expect things to be the way we want them to be in our love life, our careers, our families, our vacations and our relationship
"The greater you expect things to be, the harder
it is to deal with things that do not go your way!"
Already, I can sense resistance!
Having no expectations is one of the greatest lessons we can
learn. This is not an easy concept to wrap your mind around.
In my practice, I see this everyday:
The 30 year old female who gives up other interests, activities,
and friends, now that she is in this new relationship. She is expecting that each new relationship is "the one." She feels
incomplete without a relationship and she is expecting that he will change into the man she wants him to be.
The 75 year old grandmother, who expects here children and grand
children to all be with her on every single holiday.
The 23 year old college grad who expects to have all the computer
companies knocking at his door to employ him because he was at the top of his graduating class.
Are you ready to forget about what you think you want, and learn
more about the endless possibilities that are available to you?
1. Allow change to happen freely.
2. Let go of old ideas.
3. Embrace new ideas, no matter how different they are from yours.
4. Conflicting thoughts are not a threat. They
can be a window of opportunity.
5. Go into EVERY situation with an open mind.
6. Follow a new idea or opportunity
where IT leads you, NOT where you want it to go.
7. Take a new situation, one day at a time.
8. Be available mentally,
emotionally, spiritually for an approach that may be different than yours.
9. Find the positive in EVERY situation that
is presented to you. Why was this situation brought to me?
10. Learn the lesson the Universe is tossing your way.
Progress is not possible unless people embrace new ideas, mind
sets, skills and expectations to match the opportunities afforded by the introduction of something new to them!
By allowing yourself to be open to ANYTHING that is new to you
and giving it a chance, you can find your life going in the direction of new adventures and endless possibilities!
Try it today!
To recognize a power that is greater than our
own is to recognize our Spirituality.
We understand the mind/body relationship
to be inspired by alignment with one's Highest Spiritual Principle and by that awareness we can choose Truth.
Spiritual health is often considered a condition
marked by a diminished sense of fear and the daily experience of unconditional love, joy, gratitude, and a personal relationship
with your God (1.) (or an awareness of an inner source of infinite power and compassion.)
Religion can play a part in guiding us to the path of Spirituality.
BUT, religion is simply a bridge to Spirituality. There are many religions, but only one spiritual truth. This spiritual
truth is the journey home to your Self; and the understanding of your emotional courage, truth, and honesty. What is important
in life are the good works of love that we do for others.
Spirituality means shining a light into the
darkest corners of our world and developing our capacity for compassion for those who are suffering and working for justice
for all. (2.)
Surrendering to our higher powers so that
your Spirit can orchestrate the infinite correlation of details that are necessary for the manifestation of your desires.
(3.) These are the benefits you'll receive when you surrender to a higher power.
Spirituality can be found anywhere. You can
experience it in a church or temple, in the revel of nature, in a yoga, dance or exercise class, in the darkest, most unlikely
place. Spirituality is a state of mind. It is an experience that brings you closer to the realization of life's truths. It
can be found when facing fear, enjoying simplicity or contemplation.
Below you will find Spiritual Truths from all the World's religions.
You will find similar concepts throughout each of them, no matter how varied in beliefs they may be.
The Golden Rule
You shall love your neighbor as yourself. - JUDAISM: Leviticus
Treat others as thou wouldst be treated by thyself. - SIKHISM:
Desire not for anyone the things that ye would not desire for
yourselves. - BAH┴'═ FAITH: Gleanings 66
That nature is only good when it shall not do unto another whatever
is not good for its own self. - ZOROASTRIANISM: Dadistan-i-Dinik
All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do
ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. - CHRISTIANITY: Matthew 7.12
Not one of you is a believer until he loves for his brother
what he loves for himself. - ISLAM: Forty Hadith of an-Nawawi
Hurt not others with that which pains yourself. - BUDDHISM:
Regard your Neighbor's gain as your own gain and your neighbor's
loss as your own loss. - TAOISM:T'ai Shang Kan Ying P'ien
Never do to others what would pain thyself. - HINDUISM: Panchatantra
Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you.
- CONFUCIONISM: Analects 15.23
Remember, spiritual lessons are encrusted
in our daily life experiences as jewels. They are made available to everyone who wishes to pay attention and listen.
1. Wellness I.Q. Test by Dr. Robert Ivker, president of the
American Holistic Medical Association.
2. Spirituality and Health Magazine
3. Seven Spiritual Truths: www.holisticlearningcenter.com/truths.html
4. Spiritual Truths of World Religions: http://www.bci.org/carlisle/truths.html