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Change Your Attitude = Change Your Life!
by Joan Breiner, M.Ed. & Susyn Reeve, M.Ed., the Official Guides to Attitude
The longer I
live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important
than facts. It is more important that the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes,
than what other people think or say or do. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will
embrace that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot
change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge
of our Attitudes.
Charles
W. Swindoll
• Do you struggle with feeling good about
yourself?
• Do you spend time and energy regretting the past and worrying about the future?
• Do you believe
you can never really be happy and successful?
You can feel better and live a happier more satisfied life, no matter
what your circumstances. When you become aware of your current attitude and understand how your thoughts fuel it you then
have the opportunity to consciously choose new thoughts that result in transforming your feelings and your life.
By following
the specific technique outlined below you can learn to be the creative force in your life, rather than just reacting to life’s
circumstances.
How Do We Know? We have transformed our lives by using the Awareness-Choice-Change Model and have coached
thousands of others to live happier more satisfying lives by changing their attitude to change their lives.
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Awareness - waking up to your thoughts, feelings and behaviors that you want to change.
• Choice - consciously choosing
the thoughts you think.
• Change - altering your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Awareness describes a state
of consciousness in which you are alert, awake and conscious of your thoughts, feelings, words and actions. If you want to
change your attitude – it is necessary to be aware of your thoughts and feelings.
When you notice that your
habitual self-talk is judgmental about what you say and do; or critical regarding what you should have said or what you didn’t
do then you are on your way to upgrading the software of your mind – your thoughts and ultimately your experience.
Choice
is the act of making a decision. To consciously choose the thoughts that support a positive attitude, healthy self esteem,
confidence and well-being you must be aware of both your thoughts and feelings that detract from your feeling good.
With
this awareness you will notice when you are thinking thoughts that undermine your self esteem and happiness as well as be
aware of the thoughts that boost your self esteem and well-being. A powerful question to consider in order to choose the thoughts
that promote feelings of happiness is:
What do I want in this situation?
Whenever you notice you are being critical
and judgmental of yourself you can make the choice to strengthen your brain pathways that affirms your positive self.
Change
is where the rubber meets the road, where you put into practice the choices you have made, transforming your thoughts, attitude
and feelings about yourself so you embody positive self esteem, confidence and happiness.
This does not mean there
won't be times when you are confronted with your fears of failure or success, or that you won't, on occasion, question your
ability. What it does mean is that as soon as you notice you are feeling less than or not enough you will:
1. Be awake
to your feelings.
2. Identify the thoughts that result in your feelings
of low self esteem and negative attitude.
3. Shift your attention to thoughts supporting
your ever deepening experience of positive self esteem and happiness.
When you notice that your habitual self-talk
is judgmental about what you say and do; or critical regarding what you should have said or what you didn’t do, then
you are on your way to upgrading the software of your mind – your thoughts, your attitude and ultimately your experience.
By changing what you are thinking and doing
you are automatically giving your brain a message that says, I am person who is in control of my life. I choose to change
my attitude and change my life!
You can look at the present moment and view it with distaste, resistance and dissatisfaction
or can use it as a gateway to make a different choice.
Self-Esteem-Experts.com offers the information, exercises, worksheets
and expert coaching for you to implement the Awareness-Choice-Change Model. See The Self Esteem Experts Lesson Plan /a> for more information.
Author's Bio
First and foremost, Joan Breiner & Susyn Reeve have transformed
their lives by using the tools and techniques presented on their website http://www.Self-Esteem-Experts.com.
They know that maintaining a positive attitude starts with making a conscious choice and then
knowing what to do to shift your thinking.
The information, exercises, worksheets and Daily
Inspirations on their site is designed to support you in developing and maintaining a positive attitude no matter what is
going on in your life.
They have a wealth of experience starting with Masters Degrees in Counseling and Education
and over 35 years of experience as SelfDevelopment & Training professionals.They have designed training curriculum, written
books, taught in schools,universities, Fortune 500 corporations and have been featured on radio and TV.
Additionally,
they are entrepreneurs. They co-founded www.CelebrateAHero.com. A website to help you celebrate the special people in your life by making personalized gift books. Great
for retirements, birthdays, anniversaries or anytime you want to honor someone for being special.
Susyn is the co-creator
of www.WithForgiveness.com, a site offering the information, tools and resources to embody, express and experience unconditional
love, compassion and kindness through the practice of forgiveness.
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