I look at this first step in the article and I think about
what it means to me. What does it mean to you?
1. Identify the price of maintaining the status quo. Not making the change you know you need to make is costing you. Do some soul searching; consult with trusted allies, or journal to yourself to uncover the payoffs you're receiving and the prices you’re paying for
maintaining the status quo. When you get that the price of not making the change is greater than the payoff, you'll be more committed to moving forward.
Seriously, I start laughing because all I can hear in my own head is that
damn Dr. Phil sarcastically spitting out that phrase he likes, "So how's that workin' for you?"
The changes that I have to personally make revolve around becoming
committed to myself. I don't have a problem being committed to all of you out there in the Internet world - I have kept my
commitment to you all in keeping up with these websites. It was was the first commitment I made for my personal growth recovery
So being committed to myself is difficult for me. Loving
myself is difficult - so difficult I think it's almost impossible for me to do. If
you haven't studied about commitment I suggest you click on the word and go study up about it. Take the extra learning step
seriously and search up the word commitment and see what you can come up with on your own. I've done this already so I know
that I totally understand what it means to be committed.
My problems is that I am so disorganized I can stay with
the program for short time period and then I get distracted and then I go back to my old ways. Each time I attempt to make
a change, I learn something else that's missing from the puzzle of why I have such a hard time making changes, but it doesn't
make change any easier.
Change is not easy. It's easier not to change - maybe that's my
payoff. I am not experiencing the pain of growing by trying to do the difficult things. I am not being honest with myself
about being committed to change. I know it's going to be hard.
I don't have a support system - I think I need to find one.
Are you able to soul search and be honest with yourself?